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  1. I have recently become one of the PM's constituents.   With her antics she has pretty much stopped about 30 to £35,000 worth of work going to  local tradesmans  pockets over the next two years.    Won't really stop our plans just delay them as I will have to do most of the work myself.   

  2. Where we  have just moved to we have a 20 yo  oil boiler, megaflow and programmer no thermostat. Thinking some sort of controls would be better. Any views from users of nest, hive or tado ( or others) now?   

  3. 3 hours ago, Barrykearley said:

    Eldest came to see me yesterday after being away with mum for 2 weeks.

    unless I withdraw the court case against her mum she will never speak to me again. I’m afraid I simply have to safeguard the two kids whom live with me and I will not cower to such demands. She is an adult and entitled to make her decisions as am I and I simply refuse to be controlled by anyone again.

    I will let the judge decide on Monday.

    Tough call but probably right. 

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  4. 2 hours ago, Colin P said:


    There seems to be an "unlimited" access charge, which presumably means that the features are unlocked for the life of the car. This being the case, is a fee of, say £500 to unlock the heated seats for life any different than the cost of an "option" @ £500 to install heated seats?


    I bet that is unlimited for the drivers ownership. They will want to fleece the next few owners.

  5. We are curranty trying to do this heading Norfolk way.    Problem we are finding is the selection of propery is not great ( if you want a garage!!).  

    We plan to get a buy to let mortgage on our home for 40% of the value and buy outright in Norfolk paying it back over the next 10 years.  Can you keep the home asset and live on the rental income?

  6. Let start from the point that I  would be crapping myself with worry as well.   BUT    you have to feel some pride that he has put together and organised all that and has the determiantion  to go through with it.     I know of  a number of neurotypical 24 ish year olds who can hardly do  thier own shoe laces  as they are too lazy or thick.    

    Prepare him,   make sure he knows how to get hold of you and your details are in his passport.   Make sure YOUR passport is valid and ready to go.     And let him go,    he is going anyway with or with or without your blessing by the looks of it.

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  7. How about a dummy run to somewhere in Europe,    might find out he can do it or  he might decide he needs a little help.        My son has an aspergers diagnosis  so to a much  lesser degree I get it.     At 18 he meet a German girl online and was flying there  every other week until covid struck.   He now rides to nothern germany  every 3 weeks on a motorbike for the weekend  to avoid being on a germ filled plane!!!.     If nothing else it incentivises them,   they need to work to earn to meet up etc.   

    Its very hard to let them go isnt it.   He is probably more capable than you think after all you have seen  and dealt with every mistake he has made over the last 24 years and I imagine a lot  are seared  into your memory.   This might make him and if not now at 24 when?     Its not easy but at least you can track him via his phone etc and you are a call away not like 40 years ago.     Good luck.



  8. The young lady In my previous post came to us  as her mother left her ( age 14) to look after all her siblings and 3 of her friends kids (2 under 18 months)  whilst the mother and friend went out on the lash for 48 hours.  The drunk driver the mother was  with crashed the car and she was seriously injured.  The family were on ss books and this was the final nail.    Makes you wonder how many never get caught as no fire or accident happens.


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  9. I will post on here what I put on Piston Heads yesterday.

    We have fostered for 8 years. Sitting in my front room as I type is a 19 year old who came to us at 14 when she and 7 siblings were finally after 12 years of social services intervention put into care. This year her mother had another baby and social services had to play a game for 6 months letting this woman pretend she wanted to be a mother until she finally gave up and the baby will go for adoption. Even her 19 yo daughter said her mother doesnt want the baby she just doesnt want to lose. BUT she has her rights so we all P*** about pretending she can have her "rights" attended to at OUR cost rather than someone being an adult and saying enough is enough. Mean time the poor baby has had a mucked up first 6 months not bonding properly as not sure who the mother figure is.

    I have seen this over and over again and its really depressing. We have now had 3 seperate children from  6 plus children  familys we have looked after who have had ss intervension for more than 80 % of their lives before decisive action is taken. The family courts have a LOT to answer for.



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